Even though I have a mother, I frequently felt alone and abandoned as a child. She had to work a lot, my father was out of the picture, being on my own was the norm.
Inescapable, chronic childhood loneliness is a bane on our society. It’s something that has always been one of my trigger points, something I felt like I wanted to eradicate, but the task felt so insurmountable that it was almost not worth trying.
Another thing I have always felt strongly about is adoption or at least spending time with children who live in orphanages.
However the time never felt right. I was always too busy, there was always some problem that required solving. This hasn’t changed. What has changed is my fundamental understanding of the state I unconsciously choose to live in.
The problems always have existed and will always exist. While I am exceptionally good at solving them, I am also highly proactive in picking up more than I probably should. As soon as one is fixed, I tend to pick up two more that I can solve and end up stuck in an endless loop of problem solving.
Which ultimately is a good thing in my book. I determine a persons worth by the good they choose to do without being asked to and especially when no one is looking. So for me to keep scoring highly in my personal scoreboard, I have to keep doing what I can.
How could one go about solving this doomed childhood loneliness issue? Reaching lonely children from unfortunate households is nigh-impossible, as if a parent is abusive, they are unlikely to admit that they and their child needs help. Getting through to them would require a lot of marketing and a trusted provider of help.
My country, to the best of my knowledge, doesn’t have such a supplier. Also growing something from scratch in such a niche would be more difficult than necessary.
However focusing on children in orphanages seems like an easier step. Orphanages are already likely to want and welcome help. So that’s barrier 1 down. Next possible steps could be identifying what kind of help is necessary.
So to get an understanding of the system and to actually start doing something, I’ve contacted an orphanage and will go there tomorrow to find out what the process would be for someone who is willing to go and help and spend some time with the children there. What are the difficulties and requirements.
Right now, this is just an idea. However my Bardahl lubricant import business started from just that too. What if this little idea could grow into something that improves a life, maybe many lives? Surely it’s worth trying?